Stop Hiding Behind Compromise!Oct 14, 2019
Why do we feel that we are just a certain way, even though we don’t like it? What is going on here?
The thing is this: We THINK we have choice. Choice in our behavior. Choice in what we think. Choice in what we learn. Choice in the way we approach things.
We believe we can think ourselves out of bad behavior. That we can just learn with our brain, and then action will follow. Except it doesn’t work that way.
When I speak to an audience, I often ask this question: “How many of you have learned how to walk?” And then most hands go up. “But how many of you could teach someone how to walk?” And then not even physiotherapists respond… We all THINK we learn from someone ‘telling’ us, but the fact is, we don’t. That is what school tries. But even in school they often fail at teaching us things in that way.
So how DO we learn?
We learn to walk for the simple reason that as babies we have been put in between grown-ups who did that. And something inside of us had the desire to be one of those grown-ups. So, we did whatever it took to learn, because we wanted to be like them, because they were around us.
Then the next question: “How many of you have become like your parents even though you have done everything and anything to prevent that from happening??!” Again, same answers.
The fact is, the people we surround ourselves with, their habits, their behavior, their thoughts and their attitudes are more contagious than a virus!
Our soul can know what we want, what we desire, who we are. We can FEEL very different. But we are wired in a way to be approved, to belong, to join the common group. So, we do. And we build appropriate masks.
We cannot simply "choose" to take it off.
Our DNA has been developing over the past 6 million years. It has not changed for the past 160.000 years! I don’t care HOW influential Facebook is, it simply cannot change the fact that our DNA just doesn’t respond on a conscious level.
Yes, we can choose who is around us. We can choose the influences we surround ourselves with. But our DNA simply thinks we’ll DIE if we are outcast of the group we belong to.
So, whether we like it or not, our bodyguard (the protector of our ego) simply does not easily allow us to take off any mask. We built it, the bodyguard protects it, and it has our BEST interest at heart. So, it will do ANYTHING to keep it on.
Our bodyguard will even sabotage our success if necessary. As long as we keep the mask of the 7-year-old intact. Why? Because we asked it to.
But even though we have worn these masks since early childhood, we don’t have to keep them on forever. We CAN change. But not by force. What it takes is compassion, is gentleness, care, forgiveness, letting go of old emotions, processing feelings like guilt, shame, anger, hurt, pain and loneliness.
That is not an easy thing to do. It takes courage.
But once we do, the biggest treasure awaits us! The treasure of true fulfillment. The fulfillment we have been fighting to get by wearing our mask is right there, on the other side of it.
And not just that. Also, the fulfillment of actually belonging, of actually bringing our talents and gifts to the world in a way that we are received with our full potential…
Question: Isn’t it time to start living without masks and actually fulfilling your true potential?
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About Suze Maclaine Pont
Writes and speaks about: Money, Inner Power, Certainty, Purpose, Values, Coaching, Entrepreneurship, Leadership
She started her first company at 24 years old and is both, a trauma therapist and a business coach. She is also the first mate on tall ships. She helps entrepreneurs grow their business without sacrificing their life, their values, their relationships or their kids. She does that through aligning people with who they really are, creating certainty around their message and following their natural flow.
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As a long-time trained coach with decades of experience in what blocks and motivates people Suze uses strategies that create permanent change. Enabling you to create a business that serves AND ensures your full potential to spread into the world without sacrifices or compromises. She believes that if everyone would live from that place, we could end all wars and live in harmony.
At a glance, Suze is a serial entrepreneur, wife, mother, speaker, sailor at heart and a relentless student of human behavior and psychology.
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